Thursday, March 5, 2009

Uncle Kent writes about Grandfather Denzil

The letter below is from uncle Kent to cousin Tish in 1996. I've been working with OCR (optical character recognition), so expect several of these old missives over the next few months. The 4 page addendum mentioned has Grandfather Denzil's work history and will be posted separately later. The letter is long and perhaps only of interest to my blood relatives, but I am thrilled to have the heritage hereby preserved.

In this and all future "Old Letters" posts, my words are blue, Kent's (or TGP's or whoever the original authors are) will be in black

Kent Hollingsworth

September 11, 1996

Dear Tish:
Here's that letter. I would like to tell you about your Grandfather, my Father, but this is no easy thing, for I never really knew him.

Oh, I knew about him. Mother forever talked about him in his absence, when he was off somewhere on a construction job, about how tall and handsome he was, how neat and well dressed he always was. How very smart he was, and how hard he worked. Mother said he would get to the job early, return home late, dead tired, and fall asleep; then wake up in the middle of the night, get out of bed to check the job again, to see how the night shift was working under lights.

Also, how athletic he was. Mother said he was marvelous at golf, and he did have a picture swing, but he never broke 80. Mother reminded that he was good enough to swim on the varsity team at the University of Illinois. In an era when Johnny Weissmuller's flutter kick won Olympic golds by lowering the 400-meter freestyle record by more than 22 seconds, and by becoming the first swimmer to do 100 meters in less than a minute, with that little flutter—Father had an outboard-motor kick, thumpa-thumpa-thumpa, gutters awash, here he comes, you children better get out of his way!

While Mother conceded Weissmuller's chest was as big as Father's (when the star showed up for an exhibition at the Missouri Athletic Club pool) she noted that Father certainly was better spoken. Weissmuller's movie lines were limited to "Me Tarzan. You Jane." And while Clark Gable did have a mustache and parted his hair in the middle like Father, he had enormous ears, so there really was no comparison...

At home, I was instructed that my Father was a nonpareil. At school, I further learned that he was rich. In the Great Depression of the 1930s, "rich" was pejorative, used by sneering schoolmates to separate me from the crowd, at an age and place where one desperately wanted to blend-in and be an inconspicuous part of the crowd.

Anyway, I grew up knowing my Father only by reputation. I never really knew who he was as a young man, what he did, how he did it. We had photographs, proving he was every bit as handsome as his adoring wife thought he was, but I had no admissible evidence as to what sort of person he was when he began making his own way in the 1920s and 1930s. For all that Mother, and Donn, and Hall told me about Father before I was old enough to look at him and listen to him myself, I understood nothing of the inherited and environmental bases on which he built whatever he was. I had no facts, just hearsay, and conclusions from non-expert witnesses.

I needed some first-hand data. So I went first (hand) to the U.S. Census records and found that in 1870, my great grandfather, Joe Hollingsworth, at age 28, and wife Ellen, age 23, were living on a farm in the Allison Prairie Township near Lawrenceville, Illinois. In 1880, Joe, age 38, and Ellen, age 33, were still living there, together with their four children: Charles H., age 9; Ethelbert C. my grandfather, then age 5; Dollie D. (also known as Daisy), age 3, and Joseph J., age 1; plus two live-in workers, Belle Gannen, age 9, and George Kronkenberger, age 20.

The 1880 census for Bishop Township, near Effingham, Illinois, about 50 miles northwest of Allison Prairie, showed that another of my great grandfathers, August Piel, age 41, and wife Sophia, age 40, both born in Germany, had immigrated in 1862 to Illinois where six of their seven children were born, the youngest being Bertha, my grandmother, then age 3.

Most of the 1890 census records have been lost in a fire. The 1900 census, however, reveals that during the last two decades of the 19th Century, Ethelbert, age 25, had married Bertha Piel, age 23, and they still lived there on the family farm in Allison Prairie with their son, listed as Maurice D., then age 1. (Donn said Mother could not stand the name Maurice, and used his middle name, Denzil; Father promptly switched, signing on as Denzil M. Hollingsworth in high school.)
In checking the census for Illinois and Indiana, in the genealogical library at the University of Vincennes, I happened to peek into the town marriage-license book and discovered that Bert Hollingsworth had married Bertha Piel in Vincennes, Knox County, Indiana, about 10 miles east and across the Wabash River from Allison Prairie, on February 10, 1898.

Five years ago, Donn, Hall, and I drove over to Lawrenceville, Illinois, looking for some record of Father and his family in the Lawrence County Courthouse. We found that on July 27, 1870, great grandfather Joe Hollingsworth paid $2,500 [equivalent to $24,625 in 1994 dollars] for a 160-acre farm about four miles east of Lawrenceville in Allison Prairie Township. This farm was in two 80-acre tracts about a quarter-mile apart, one with no improvements, for it cost only $500, the other tract probably having a house on it, costing $2,000.

This, as Old Home Places go, may not have been majestic, considering what $20,000 today would get you on 80 acres—maybe a second-hand mobile home. Be that as it may, Joe worked that 160 acres for 11 years, until he died at the age of 39 on Nov. 7, 1881; his widow Ellen raised three boys and a girl in that trailer, and lived off that flat prairie farm for another 18 years after her husband died.

At the age of 23, my grandfather Bert built a $500, two-story, frame house on the back portion of the farm, married Bertha, and apparently became involved in a family squabble over who owned what. Bert was named defendant in a lawsuit filed in 1898 by his older brother, younger sister and brother, and his mother, to partition the family farm they had shared for 28 years. Pending final order in this suit, Bert's mother, Ellen Jones Hollingsworth, sold the unimproved 80-acre tract to Charles E. Jones, perhaps a relative, for $500, what Joe had paid for it 29 years earlier.

The court then awarded Ellen her old house and 10 acres, valued at $1,000 as her homestead, and another 10 acres as her dower; the remaining back 40 acres were partitioned equally among the four children, Bert getting the 10 acres on which he had built his house two years earlier.

Last month I drove to Allison Prairie to see this house where Father and his younger sister, our Aunt Dorothy, were born. It was unimposing. It was the only house in sight, surrounded as far as one could see by irrigated soybeans and tall, corn, directly south of the Lawrenceville-Vincennes International Airport. In weathering a century on a windswept plain, the clapboard house had lost some paint, but was livable. A young couple and their children were having lunch under a large shade tree beside the house. The young man said he did not know how old the house was, but he understood his grandparents had lived there when they were young, before World War II, and his Father had been born in the house. He said he and his brother farmed some 500 acres on this side, and the other side of Highway 1100N, which the house faced.

My grandmother Bertha apparently did not care for this house, and its surrounding 10 acres, although she had caused her husband to deed over all his rights in it to her in 1899. Also, she did not care for the lifestyle out there on Allison Prairie. Further, she doubted her handsome young husband (Mother said Bert looked like Hall) had any sense of upward mobility, and suspected he was not going anywhere--certainly not upward, socially or economically, and not even to town, geographically.

One evening, Bert returned and was stunned to find the house empty. No wife, no children, no furniture. He was soon to learn that she had sold the property, cleaned out the bank account, and had gone—to where, he knew not. The 1901 St. Louis City Directory lists Bertha Hollingsworth, forewoman, as renting an apartment at 3505 Itaska Street in south St. Louis. (Randolph says a forewoman was a supervisor of other women in a sweatshop; Bertha was making her own way sewing lace.)

Three weeks ago, Dorcas and I drove to St. Louis, checked land and marriage records in City Hall, city directories in the library. Dorcas took pictures of buildings still standing where Father, Mother, Bert, Bertha, Uncle Jim Addis, Chum and Grandmother resided from 1901-40. The neighborhoods around Tower Grove Park, where Father and Mother grew up, contain multi-family brick dwellings built in the early decades of this century. Mother indicated they were occupied by low-income German and Italian immigrants. Now these neighborhoods are all black, save Flora Place,

six blocks with center parkway, leading west from Grand Avenue to the old entrance to Shaw's Garden on Tower Grove Avenue.

Bert did not catch up with Bertha until 1903, when the St. Louis City Directory lists him, as a laborer, residing at 3435A LaSalle Street, a building now razed, in a business zone. At the same address in 1905, we find James T. Addis, listed as a contractor. In 1906, Bert, then and thereafter listed as a locomotive fireman, moved with Uncle Jim a few blocks over to Park Avenue.

We could not find a record of Bertha's divorce from Bert in the St. Louis Civil Courts Building, but we did obtain a copy of Bertha's and Uncle Jim's marriage license, showing the marriage was performed by a justice of peace in St. Louis on Nov. 11, 1908.

The City Directories did not show where Bertha and her children lived from 1902 through 1908. Father told me that he remembered his mother had placed him and little Dorothy in a St. Louis orphanage when he was four or five years old; it was just for a few months, until his mother could find a job and place to live. After a week or so, Father thought she had abandoned them forever, and he had a hard time comforting his younger sister, who cried a lot. Dorcas recalls Father saying they lived for a while in Clayton, a St. Louis suburb just west of Forest Park (site of the 1903 World's Fair which celebrated the Centennial of the Louisiana Purchase).

After Bertha's marriage to Uncle Jim late in 1908, it may be presumed she moved with her children to Uncle Jim's address at 2900 Park Avenue. This was not your usual New York Park Avenue flat. Urban renewal has razed many of the old tenements in this area, but Dorcas was able to take some pictures of young black residents of 2900 Park Avenue. Father probably lived in an apartment at this address for four years, until he was 14; then Bertha moved Uncle Jim and her children to a house of their own, in a little better neighborhood, three blocks west of Grand Avenue, one block south of Tower Grove Park, at 3924 Juniata Street.

Father lived in this two-story red brick house for the next nine years, while going to high school and college; he listed it as his residence on his marriage license in 1923. Dorcas' photograph of this house, shows it was situated quite close to a neighboring house. Donn said Bert worked his way up between these two houses, climbed through a second-story window, snatched Uncle Jim out of bed, told him if he ever drank whiskey at home, in front of his children, he, Bert, would kill him. Uncle Jim recognized the earnestness in this threat and Donn said he believed Uncle Jim never had another drink at home. Which must have been tough, for he was an Irishman, and whiskey fueled his crew of Irishmen who wrecked buildings as a business.

Father said his father never drank or smoked, "but he sure gave women hell”; then he would laugh, embarrassed, and slap his knee. Father said Bert lost his job with the railroad many times, usually for fighting, or arguing with his superiors. Father said Bert was not tall, only about 5-foot-8, but he was robust, very strong, and athletic. Father remembered Bert's lifting him on his shoulders, and jumping off a street car before it stopped, running as fast as Olympic sprinter Archie Hahn, to keep from falling on his face with his top-heavy load. Bertha heard about the stunt and got a restraining order to keep Bert away from her children, and Uncle Jim.

Father did not seem to inherit much from his father, in the way of physical features, mental acuity, or cultural awareness. He had no chance to learn anything from his father, because he never lived with him, never saw him except for brief, uncomfortable visits which his mother
discouraged.

Father probably inherited his drive from his ambitious mother. Bertha devoted all her energies and street smarts to make her handsome son into someone important, whose success might reflect on her. She abandoned a dusty, Illinois prairie, and her unpromising first husband, for the excitement of a big city, and she latched on to a man who had his own company, and who could provide her and her children with a solid brick home.

To expand her social contacts, Bertha formed a sewing circle, inviting the most attractive ladies in the neighborhood; among these was the beautiful and elegantly mannered young wife of a university-educated physicist— Blanche Parrott and Chum. He was graduated from the University of Michigan, with honors in mathematics; while teaching in Saint Johns and Saginaw in Michigan, he had written several scientific articles that brought him some out-of-state notice. In 1909, he accepted an offer to teach at McKinley High School in St. Louis, and moved with his wife and 11-year-old daughter into a nice duplex at 3867 Utah Place.

My grandmothers, Bertha and Blanche, became friends and during sewing circle sessions, exchanged glowing reports on their children. They arranged for Mother and Father to be introduced to each other. Soon thereafter, Father suffered a broken leg playing baseball in Tower Grove Park, and asked Mother to visit him in the hospital.

According to family tradition (compiled mostly by Mother) neither looked for love elsewhere, ever after. Mother was born in June, eight months before Father, and while they were the same age February through June, every September Mother remained an academic year ahead of Father.

In the fall of 1916, Mother matriculated at the University of Missouri in Columbia. While she was gone, Bertha began looking around for a better prospect for her son. To insure that Mother could not tie him up in Columbia, Bertha insisted that Uncle Jim pay out-of-state tuition for Father and shipped him off to the University of Illinois at Champaign-Urbana in the fall of 1917. Mother transferred to the University of Illinois for her junior and senior years, and there, the twain having met again, they never were to part--Rudyard Kipling notwithstanding.

I have annexed hereto, a four-page chronology of Father's construction work and financial success, abstracted from Father's 1943 application for a commission in the Navy SeaBees. These are facts, over Father's signature, interspersed with my parenthetical notes intended to amplify stark data; I have converted 1920 and 1930 dollars into 1994 dollars, using the U.S. Labor Department's Consumer Price Index table, to place in current perspective Father's earnings in his business-active years.

Father's initial success in the construction business cannot be attributed to his stepfather's guidance. Jim Addis ran a building-wrecking crew of Irishmen, pick-and-shovel men who moved dirt with horse-drawn drag buckets in the first decades of this century. Father ran grades, laid out the work, and supervised the men for his stepfather while he was in college; but he thought in terms of machines and mechanical advantages, and he spoke the language of a university-trained civil engineer, a language Uncle Jim did not fully comprehend. They did not work together long.

Measured in today's dollars, Father earned $147,610 at the age of 26, during his first year of business as his own boss. His stepfather and father never got within 31 lengths of that kind of money. That he was able to buy a $293,000 house
(left to right Blanche, Dorcas, Denzil, Kent, Donn, Hall, Polly, Chum)
two years later at the age of 28 was an indication of precocious business success, attained sooner and in greater measure than anything realized by his forebears, or his descendants. He earned some $321,000 at the age of 32, and he earned about $5 million at the age of 40, from his own physical efforts, his own thought processes, his initiatives, his inventions. No one handed this monetary success to him in a pay envelope. No board voted him a stock option. He earned it, by himself, without apparent benefit of inherited and environmental influences.

For much of my professional writing career, I have been pointing out the incidence of exceptional performers in the pedigrees of successful race horses; and I have emphasized the importance of environment — good food and care during the early years, expert training, and adherence to a well designed strategic plan — to attain success in any endeavor.

I see little of this in my Father's background. He may have been guided, motivated, by his mother and his wife, but many individuals have been guided and motivated toward success, yet failed to realize it for want of other essential ingredients in the mix. Father did what he did mainly on his own. His success was self-made.

I sorely regret that I never really got to know him, that I was so self-absorbed in making my own way, I did not appreciate my Father during his last 25 years, when I had the opportunity to walk at his side.

So I have set out for you here, some of the things your Grandfather did when he was young, about your age, that you might perceive a vague image in the mist from whence you came.
With love,

Father (Kent)

Sunday, March 1, 2009

Snow Day in the ATL

Clearly, white dogs don't show snow well.
Not usually an issue for us, but we were getting some huge wet flakes for a while today. You can see them on Scout much better than on Sparky. This snow is after over an inch of rain yesterday, so it's pretty slushy around here.

The Bradford Pear tree across the street has some blooms, if you can see them through the snow.


The daffodils were standing up before the heavy snow bent them over.

The forsythia really had us thinking spring a couple of days ago.

The magnolia tree really isn't holding that much snow, but I am including it because it makes me smile every time I see it. It has been there since we bought the house, but we only discovered it this past summer, when I finally got someone to do the yard work for me. We thought he had planted it. Really.

If you show your belly...

There were several socially accepted things when the girls were teenagers that I never could quite tolerate. I have been known to count with my fingers the number of times that someone said "like" when it wasn't a legitimate part of a simile.

Early in the aughts, most girl pants were cut to sit low at the hips and most shirts were none too long. This led to a midriff problem. Caroline continued to assert that she had an unusually long torso, but I would have none of it. I developed a response as per the title of this post, and if either of my girls showed their belly, I would show mine. This was reasonably effective, especially after a Friday night in Madison, GA. We were on our way to Orangeburg and stopped at the Zaxby's off of I-20. It being Friday night, all the cheerleaders were there, along with the football fans headed to that week's game. Anyway, I saw some belly on Eleanor, so hiked my shirt up nice and high and let the hairy man-belly do its thing. Even Mary Anne bordered on being embarrassed. My pastor, Vic, found the story good enough to include in his Easter sermon that year.

The second best part was that most of my Sunday School class knew the story was about my girls, even though we weren't mentioned by name. The best part was that Eleanor, who had obviously been with us at Zaxby's, was out of the country on Spring Break that Easter, so she missed the sermon. As was our custom, we watched it all together on the TV when she was back. We hadn't told her what was coming, but MA and Caroline and I were all watching her and then boyfriend as that part of the story came along. She curled up in a bashful ball on the couch when it became clear where the story was going and the rest of us laughed until, as Bill Cosby says, we fell out the chair.

The empty nest leaves me with fewer opportunities to have much impact on wardrobe. Those were the days.

Tuesday, February 17, 2009

Facebook

I had an epiphany Sunday night. I was corresponding with Marnie, our executive pastor at Peachtree Presbyterian Church via Facebook. The dialog was clearly supportive of My 95, an initiative of the missional church to guide parishioners in how to spend the vast majority of their life.

As a part of MEDITECH, my email at work is OPEN. That means that anyone can read it. As an officer of the company, I don't even have a log of who read it (most employees can see who has read their email). It's a very convenient mechanism for checking an ill colleague's email, to make sure their clients get appropriate responses. But now I recognize that it is also a very interesting way to convey to the entire company whatever it is that I want to convey. If I'm writing another officer, I know that dozens of employees will read it.

Clearly, we at Peachtree are using Facebook this way as well. I want you to read what I write on Chuck Roberts or Vic Pentz's wall. We're trying to influence you. As followers of Jesus should be hoping to influence others who watch them with everything we do.

My cousin Randolph has made a career out of figuring out how young folks are using the current media. I think it's cool that we old folks can use the new media as well.

Sunday, February 15, 2009

The Cobbler's Children

Medical care is not always easy to get, even if you live in a doctor's house. However, the tradition of makeshift medicine began a generation earlier, back at the Holly's. Young Vertrees (TGP) used to like the way the cut ends of the tobacco looked as they were hanging upside down in the barn curing. He jumped up to see them and missed the 4x4 rail on the way down. His chin hit a rail, and his lower teeth came through his lower lip.

After a lot of noise, Denzil (my grandfather) was summoned. He attempted to remove the lip from the teeth with the aid of the best tool he had available, a kitchen fork. When that didn't work, they went to the doctor. As the MD was working, he said something to the effect of it appearing that someone had been tugging at the lower lip with a fork. TGP tried to explain that that was exactly what had happened, but couldn't be understood, as he still had teeth sticking through his lower lip.

One beautiful summer day at Spindletop, I was playing on a variant of a see-saw they have there. I kicked my bare foot forward and it dug down underneath a metal handle bar, slamming the left big toe into the metal. It split asunder immediately. Eventually we got home and TGP examined it. The usual rule for pain among the children was that there had to be blood or bone visible, or it had to hurt for two weeks before it warranted attention. This fit in the blood category, so I didn't have to wait. Surveying the damage, TGP when down to the tool chest in the basement. As he came up with the needle nose pliers, Sophia remembers him saying "Oh, this isn't going to be good for Eben". I remember the painful shots of anesthetic, the the removal of the separated top and bottom half of my big toe nail. It really hurt. It hurt at school when someone stepped on it. It hurt for weeks.

Years later, in Charleston, Dunn returned from a game of Bladderball
with the youth group. He came through the first floor in Charleston where I was holding court with Mary Anne, holding his jaw up with his hands, and said "Pleez have Pha check on me when he gets in". After several hours, Dunn got X-rayed to find that he had broken his jaw. Herself passed out at the hospital the next day looking at the X-rays. After several weeks with a jaw wired shut, Dunn was good as new.

I still discount whatever gets hurt. At least we don't panic easily.

Saturday, February 14, 2009

MS Walk 2009

This one is a little harder to write than others posts, as it is more personal. I want to express a little bit about our experience with MS as I solicit for research funds again.

MA was definitively diagnosed with multiple sclerosis in March of 2002, after a first incident over Christmas of 2001. (as you can derive from the name, it takes more than one episode of inflammation of myelin around the nerves in the brain to constitute Multiple Sclerosis). I sent an email to many of our friends at that time; if anyone has a copy, I'd love to see it again.

The hardest part of MS is the lack of predictability. MA had numbness in her face in December 2001, then double vision and vertigo in March while we were with my family in Mexico. Strong doses of IV steroids tend to eliminate the short term problems like that and she did that a few times early on. Over the years since, she has had very few vision problems and no more bad numbness. The persistent recurring symptoms are extreme fatigue and a slight limp.

I did the MS walk in '05, '06 and '07, raising enough to be in the top 100 fundraisers in Georgia. A testament to how many people love Mary Anne. In 2007, our Faithmates Sunday School class from Peachtree walked with me (I should have a picture, but can't seem to find it) Last year, we were in Charleston watching Eleanor in her last college play during the walk, so we missed it. I'm looking forward to walking again this year.

My roommate Chuck said he admired me for how I took care of Mary Anne. It's really not taking care of, it's doing what you want to do for your favorite person on this earth. I love to cook, so it's convenient that it's easier for us to eat in most of the time. We did end up getting a housekeeper, as a concession to my not wanting to take the time to keep the house clean.

An MS blog Mary Anne read a while back was set at a diner and the speaker, who had MS, gathered spoons from some tables and put them in a pile. He explained his experience by saying something along the lines of:
Imagine that everything we expend energy on costs us some spoons and that we all start our days with the same number of spoons. Getting dressed, walking, shopping, even driving takes away spoons. For regular folks, getting dressed and driving somewhere probably costs one spoon. On a bad MS day, that can cost me a whole pile of spoons. This disease just makes me more careful about how I spend them.

We have worked very hard at making this disease less of a limitation and more of an opportunity to be careful with our spoons. Family and friends come first. We have eliminated from our lives many of the less important things that we used spend time and effort on. We do all our shopping on line. We also really don't sweat the small stuff; perspective is a beautiful thing.

Sitting here with the fire on, MA knitting, two dogs in dog ball in the den, life really couldn't be much better.

If you would like to sponsor me as I walk this spring, the link is here. If for some reason that doesn't work, paste the mess on the next line into the address bar on your browser.
http://main.nationalmssociety.org/site/TR/Walk/GAAWalkEvents?px=2158684&pg=personal&fr_id=11240


As the old Bartleby and James commercial used to say, thank you for your support.

Saturday, February 7, 2009

Halloween

I wear a lot of plaid.

Also, patterns, stripes and colors. In general, I am a very good knittee, which is convenient since herself is such a good knitter. See my most recent sweater, done in entrelac, as shown below.
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I'm not afraid of a strong pattern either. Back when embarrassing the girls was part of my job, I even went so far as to wear both the top and bottom of a wonderful Old Navy pattern. We had Halloween contests at my office in the old days. If you can't read the sign I'm holding, it says "Embarrassing father of teen age daughters".

Come June 5th, I won't have any teenagers any more. I'll miss it.